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Real Love in Marriage:
The Truth About Finding Genuine Happiness Now and Forever

Marriages fail not because of a lack of commitment, or poor communication, or even the conflicts that occur over money, sex, children, and household duties. Marriages fail because both partners originally came together without enough of that one element—Real Love—most essential to healthy relationships. Without Real Love, marriages are guaranteed to founder in expectations, demands, disappointment, and anger.

No matter how many wounds have been inflicted in a marriage, they can all be healed with the consistent application of Real Love, giving both partners the sense of fulfillment and joy they’ve always wanted.

There are no quick solutions to ‘fixing’ a marriage. A great marriage is not a technique. What is required is a firm commitment on the part of one or both partners to change who they are individually. We learn to be loving, and a richly rewarding marriage is a natural result of each spouse independently learning to make loving decisions.

Most people use marriage as a weapon to force their partners to give them what they want. Marriage is really a lifelong commitment to stay with your partner while you learn how to unconditionally love him or her.

What we need is not to manage conflict in a marriage but to eliminate it entirely, which is quite possible as we diligently apply the principles of Real Love.